As a Civil Celebrant, I provide an opportunity for you to have a funeral service that is personal, very flexible, and allows the family to take control of the ceremony. My task is to ascertain the wishes of the family, and then design a non-religious ceremony which pays a warm and loving tribute to the life of the deceased.

Spirituality has an important place in such a ceremony, but need not necessarily include religion. This suits many people in whose lives organised religion has not played a significant part.

The eulogy, or life story, is without question the most important part of the ceremony. It is during the eulogy that we have an opportunity to highlight important events in the life we are celebrating; to talk about their interests and passions; to reflect on their achievements; and to acknowledge their contribution to the world in which we live.

A member of the family, or a family friend, may like to speak at the ceremony, adding to the life story. This can add a very personal dimension to the service.

Music is an important part of every ceremony. Particular pieces are often chosen because they have a special significance in our relationship with the deceased. Music creates a mood which helps to put us in touch with our memories - a very important part of assisting in our grief.

The service may include a quiet time for reflection; it may include suitable readings, and personal anecdotes help to convey the true character of your loved one.

Symbols are often included in the funeral service. Flowers always reflect love - flowers from a family garden are very special.

Candles are used in many ceremonies, and help create an atmosphere of fond memories.

The inclusion of photos, or a memory board, can be important in creating positive memories.

All of these elements are brought together in such a way as to create a truly memorable service - a celebration of life, a recognition of your loved one's unique place in our world.

Pre-planning your funeral is wise, practical and considerate. It also lends purpose, control and a sense of completeness to the rituals surrounding death - long before it occurs.

Planning can be a private matter, or shared with family members.

Some of the choices available to you are:

  • Location of the funeral
  • Ceremony style and tone
  • Cremation or burial
  • Personal achievements
  • Family anecdotes
  • Special life events
  • Favourite proverbs
  • Music preferences
  • Preferred poetry or readings
  • Inclusion of hymns
  • Prayers or psalms
  • Involvement of clubs or associations
  • A Gift of Life - organ donation details



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